Singleton 2..

Do not tell me It cannot be done ..

Freedom!

It is not about th indian freedom struggle , but about a more burning issue in our hands now ..

Often labelled as the fourth pillar of democracy , media had almost always enjoyed a full power and freedom on various issues ( except some very unfortunate incidences during vernacular press act , and during the emergency imposed by then former prime minister ) ..upto what extent is this freedom justified?

Indian media has been strongly influenced by the british system (which i think is the best in the world )..It has played a key role during indian freedom struggle where the energizing poems and articles by Rabindra nath Tagore , Aurobindo Ghosh and others helped in inducing the necessary patriotism in the dwindling minds of Indians ..How the like of bhagat singh and other revolutionaries effectively used this media of mass communication to diversify their ideas ..who can forget the newspaper headlines declaring india an independent country , those flashing lines are still a moment of pride for every Indian ..Even after the independence media has potrayed the plight of farmers , the crumbling economy of late 80’s and always awared the masses about the goings of the country ..i remember dad telling me how they were watching india win the world cup and the how the whole country erupted in joy ..all this possible through a single force ..MEDIA..

Even now media has been doing great job..infact in the modern scenario , it has assumed a much bigger definition and role ..The voice of media is too strong for a single person or even for govt. to suppress.the recent examples of Jessica Lal Murder case and various other such incidences are glaring examples of it ..

But the point which i am trying to make here is upto what point is this freedom justified ? is there no framework within which media has to function ? is there no control on what media say and portray…?

Like they say too much freedom can also be an evil ..the string operations , the way of glamorizing the reports , the way of finding lucrative , interesting news out of nothing at cost of more imp. national news , the way of showing news of famous instead of other way around..Is it justified ?

Recently saw Halla Bol ..it is from only this movie , that i started thinking about writing this article , in it the might of media has been shown marvelously , how it can bring someone very powerful down , how the combined power of paisa and power appears so small in front of it .Of course all this remain true only till media remains truthful , true to its cause of verifying the reports before publishing them ..but if this is not the case , then the freedom of press can be easily manipulated for someone advantage ..I think it is at this point that the code of conduct for media should interfere..

It is very complex , indeed extremely difficult ..to set a bar on the freedom of media , to set a point beyond which it can not go , to demarcate its powers..

So what is the solution ?moral and ethical ground ..probably not!

Note : when i read this again , i noted i am horrible !!

Conversation …4..

Sid : Hi dude , so how is it going ?

Sandeep : same old thing , things going quite slow , have not experimented with what you have said ..

Sid: do not worry , go slow , ok let us change situations this time , tell me how do you chat .

Sandeep : ah! good ..ok , let me publish my first paper on this ..

MODERN CONVERSATIONS..
Day 1:

Seeing a green dot in front of the girl , the expectations of boy , in an moment , sky rocketed , felt like just given an injection of steroids .

he moved towards clicking the link to start a chat with her , but suddenly like a meteorite , a cross thought in mind ” If i go first , she would think i am too eager , too desperate ..let her start , after all she also wants to talk with me , i am a cool dude . ..” .

With this thought , with his head held high , he sat there waiting for her to start ..

with each passing moment , he saw himself melting , or rather it was his pride .. after 10 to 15 anxious moments , he finally decided to start the conversation and the moment he started typing ..the girl went offline ..”shit !!”

Day 2:
Next day , when the girl came online , this time he was certain , now i am going to start , but again he waited , 5 mins , did not want to show his desperation in any way and after that he typed
“hi “
after 10 secs ..
” heyyyyy “
wow ! great response ! girls have a tendency to say hi with such enthusiasm that to boy , it feels she was waiting to be called ..It charges the boy like a boeing 747 filled for a long journey , sets his spirits to levels beyond human reach…
So after initial success , boy was about to ask further when

” What ’s up “
the most mundane , yet one of the most favorite of the girls ..i think they have customized their biological
mental set up for this ..
But , for our boy ..another injection of those steroids ” she is showing great int. in me , she always wanted to talk with me and today i have opened the floodgates , today ‘Ek main Ek tu , dono Milenge is tarah ‘..
so boy starts typing ..

“A lot is happening in my life ,i am doing this and this , bla bla …more bla bla ..”
Would write everything he can ever think of , would start from the smallest thing he is doing to other not so
small things , would mention his every activity in past days ..and still thinks “had i forgotten something?? “.
after much thinking and writing , he finally types..
” What’s up with you ? “

Boy waiting desperately ,” now , i would get to know about her , would learn what she likes , what she dislikes , she is going to tell me everything about her life , yes…. “
waiting !
still waiting!
more wait!
Finally , a message start to beep from the window
” NOTHING ..”

Poetic License..

…
The way she looked at me , i know she loved me
The way she touched me , i know she cared for me

Sid : Wake up sandeep ! we are getting late ..

Sandeep : huh ! what ? where is she   ?  ..

Sid :  dreaming again about her ? Yaar leave her , she looks beautiful only in dreams , she loves and cares for you , makes you feel  you are in heaven , would walk along with you through out your dream ..but in reality ..nopes never ..

Sandeep : Why not in real life ?Yaar , at least i can become a poet in dreams ..;)

Karan..

On June 19 at the stroke of the midnight , here wishing a very warm Happy Birthday to one of my best friends i have got …

Karan , the one name that has been around me for three years now , right from the very first Rn sir’s test  to this very moment as  one constant pillar of friendship , strength ..

With his long hair , central partition my first impression was one of those umpteen Chandigarh guys fooling around here and there , wasting their precious time ..but in the very first test , he was there at the top of the list beating everyone ..and you know instantly ..that Looks are deceptive , this guy is here to dominate..

Trust me on one thing , his friendship is precious ,rare in this modern times . He would do anything for you , will make an extra effort to have your work done perfectly and swiftly ..Money always take a back seat for this guy ..You yourself wonder why this guy is taking so extra pain for you ..he is idealization of the friends we study in those novels , he personifies a character every one would love to have with him ..

Apart from all these things , there are two thing i have been really jealous of him

One :  he is able to get hold of the hottest gals everywhere ..you could find numerous contacts of girls in his phone book , and he is flooded with calls from them all over the day ..this is one secret he still has to share with me ..

Two : he has excellent social skills , he perhaps is the only guy in IITD to know more than half of it ..you move with him even for 10 mins, and you are introduced to numerous personalities all sharing a great bond with him , he is favorite of his seniors , his own friends and now most probably of his fachas too ..

If i go on length describing  the incidences between us , i would probably need a night out today ..

So in short , A very Happy Birthday ..

Conversation ..3

Sandeep : yaar , i think most of the girls are stupid ..or they go lunatic just before falling in love . They have horrible choices , do not give an ounce of thought while selecting their boyfriend ..

Sid : Nahi yaar , what proof do you have .?

Sandeep : I am still Single..;)

Rendezvous…

a mere glimpse was enough for making someone  desperate for her for entire lifetime ..never understood Wordsworth  when he said a thing of beauty is joy forever ..i think  now getting a clue what he wanted to say …

she never said anything but the way she looked at me ( i suppose ) was more than she could have ever said , her eyes were saying a million words  ..felt like  an invisible thread of oneness between us , a thread that has just been made without anyone in the surroundings ever realizing …

her smile would have given a dejected man a reason to cheer  , would have given him that hope on which he could bank upon , to me , it gave me the that  face which i can always adore …

Sid:   ( suddenly interrupting )   Was she Miss . Z ?

Sandeep : really ? is it possible ? On the back of my mind , i did have somewhere that she was Z , but is it

possible ? is it really possible ..

Sid: may be …

Note : sorry to all those who have been reading these ..these are real life incidences , but could not display the names involved and also not use other more real though fictitious names ..X,Y,Z provide a wonderful way to bail me out this situation …

Singletons..1

Got this idea again from Taru to write down the some of the better one liners you have heard or that have come up in your mind ..

i am starting with one of each category which came across my way only recently ..

1. the only sure thing one knows is there is nothing sure ..( from ” A beautiful mind ” )

2. Over – Optimism is a pitfall in this world of realism ..( during discussion with hitanshu )

Coversation …two..

All the characters in the following conversation are non – fictious and any resemblance with any living or dead is purely intentional ..

Sandeep : so Sid , any change or new in life ..?

Sid : yaar , life is going good , really enjoying now ..things going great ..

Sandeep : yeah that i can judge from our last conversation ..so in this you were to tell your secret …remember ..

Sid : yes , i do but the thing is it is patented , so do not tell anyone further ..

Sandeep : Yaar , itni hawa ..koi na , i will tell no one ..

Sid : so ..to start with everyone does the same , just asking the ques. about how you are , what ’s up with the life and other boring stuff , but the point is you keep a mental note of what she is saying ..try to grab an int. point in her talk , and when you start feeling little bored , come with that point , let her do most of the talking , you just enjoy listening to what she is saying .. ..

Sandeep : oye wait ! who is paying for the call ??

Sid : aa gaya na kanjus !! you want to talk or not ?? yaar , first do some initial investment , reward will start to pour automatically later ..with X , i did some initial calls , but then response started to come from other side as well , and now it is 50:50 matter..

Sandeep : really!!

Sid : ok , not 50:50 , 60: 40 against me..

Sandeep : really !!

Sid : 70 : 30

Sandeep : really !!

Sid : ok ..ok 80 :20 and this is final !! and yes some things are more than money ..when you genuinely feel for someone , these things become secondary and you do not think , who is calling , the imp. thing is you both are talking ..

Sandeep : yes , definitely a point ..but sid yaar , i think just letting her speak and listening to her makes you secondary ..self identity , self respect, your ego ..where are they gone ..?

Sid : woh gaye ghaas khane ! see there are not many girls for whom you do this , in case of me i do this only for X and for that single person , these things does not matter , and if you are bringing these things into your relation , you are yourself responsible for jeopardizing your relation with her ..sandeep , the imp. thing is you assess what you want to do ..upto what point you are comfortable and upto which limit you want to stretch your relation ..and yes with my own experience , i can tell you a great friend with a girl is a dangerous statement to make ..like you once yourself wrote ..It’s so much easier to say “i am just a very good friend of her ” than to actually not love her…yaad aya !!so just be a friend or jump over the wall..and yes how is it going with Miss Y…

Sandeep : (long pause )….She is a great friend ….

Conversation …One ..

All the characters in the following conversation are non – fictious and any resemblance with any living or dead is purely intentional ..

Sandeep : hi sid , so how’s life ? how’s the things going with Miss. X..?

Sid : hello , yaar , i am fine and the ball has really started to roll now , had a lengthy talk with X last night , more than an hour ..mazaa aa gaya…

Sandeep : yaar , i have never been able to understand this ..How can you talk for so long on phone , it gets to my nerves if i talk for more than 5 mins , have tried to do it many times , but after those initial 5 to 10 mins , it really starts to get funny ..long periods of silence and then same ques . so what’s up ? kind of silly ..i think chat is much better ..you can take up a topic and then talk continuously on it ..no need to give immediate replies , you can think over a topic and then reply .. i have been chatting a lot with this Miss. Y , and i can tell you i really enjoy chating to her …

Sid: leave it dude ..talking on phone gives you another pleasure ..you feel more emotionally attached ..and yes you get genuine replies from the other side ..they are the one that are most spontaneous ..not the fake smiles one can make on chat .. you can genuinely feel about that person from the tone of her voice ..

Sandeep : hmmmmm..point ..absolutely a point ..but yaar , how can you talk for so long on phone ..mere toh pasine aane lagte hain and it is then , when i start to act really stupid…

Sid : yaar , yeh ek kala hai …see with the guys , there is no problem .it is in a way very much similar to the way we are talking now ..with the girls ..hmmm there is a secret ..kabhi baad mein …

Sandeep : ok yaar , but do tell me …

Warning : After my friend Sid’s comment ..( which i have edited in a great way …) , i think this should more be a call Vs chat post …no serious thoughts should be attached despite my earlier comment that every co relation is purely intentional…